24-year-old girlfriend dumps 22-year-old boyfriend for losing 2 jobs in 6 months and living off her mom's money: 'He was fired because of his attendance.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Dec 20, 2025 8:00 AM EST

He had complete control over whether he had a job. 

There are a lot of people out there who can't get a job, no matter how desperately they try. They are constantly searching for any position to put bread on the table, but for whatever reason, nothing is coming through. They might be overqualified for the most entry-level work available, and the companies in their field aren't hiring because of the economy. 

On the other hand, there is the extreme of someone who will do anything to avoid working. They will live off their parents, their friends, the government, or their romantic partners for as long as possible, so that they don't have to put on their big-boy pants every morning and go to work. They have no pride about being responsible for their own destiny. They can't be honest with themselves about why they are so dependent on everyone else to take care of them. It doesn't matter if their parents or partner has enabled them for years. Eventually, they need to step up and take care of themselves for a change.

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  • The boyfriend in this story has allowed his girlfriend and his girlfriend's mom to subsidize his lazy existence. He wasn't laid off for reasons beyond his control. He was fired because he couldn't show up to work on time and play nice with his boss. Luckily, his girlfriend is not going to take it anymore.

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  • Am I the bad guy for wanting to leave my boyfriend for getting fired twice in the span of 6 months?

    My boyfriend (male, 22) was fired about 6 months ago from his factory job. He and I (female, 24) have lived together for a little over a year. He worked there for over a year and was fired
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  • because of his attendance. I got my first real "big girl job" this time last year and have been working part-time. I can handle my side of the bills, but he cannot. I had to force him to file for unemployment
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  • and make sure he kept up with it. My mom had been helping us financially because of the loss of his job. He gets so angry anytime I tell him that he needs to buckle down and find a job because
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  • unemployment was going to end soon, and my mom could no longer help us. During this time, I went into a deep depressive episode and gained a lot of weight from stress eating. Well, just at the
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  • right time, he was hired 1 month ago. While at this new job, he was not getting along with a trainer. He was getting in trouble, being asked why he is not committed to this, what's going on, etc. Just last
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  • week, he was apparently ignoring his trainer, and she told their manager and left. My boyfriend was sent home and was told they would talk on Monday (today). I dropped him off at work today (yeah,
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  • he doesn't have a license, that's a whole other issue) and went home. He soon called me, saying they fired him.
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  • I picked him up from work, and he told me that they didn't want his side of the story and just fired him. First of all, would they just fire someone for 1 issue? Is he not telling me the whole
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  • truth? Over the many months of being unemployed, he would not help with house duties (I am chronically ill and disabled), he foolishly spent money on collectibles even though we had rent and bills
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  • to pay, he made zero effort into looking for a new job after I told him many times that I was in the depressive episode because of all the stress, he kept getting mad at me when I told him I didn't
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  • want sex, and just treated me bad. Our whole relationship has honestly been such a rollercoaster, we have broken up and gotten back together multiple times, he has
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  • ghosted me for weeks or a month... With all this being said, AITAH for wanting to find someone who is committed to creating a future with me, someone
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  • who can handle himself and take care of himself? I just want to feel secure and safe, and I no longer do.
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  • OP Friendly_Exchange603 other information: we have been together for 4 years ily all for then brutal honesty, i needed it
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  • doublestack12 You're not leaving him because he got fired twice you are leaving him because he is a deadbeat and has proven this in many occasions. NTA but you need to figure out why you think so little of yourself that you are willing to put up with a bum for so long.
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  • OP Friendly_Exchange603 ily for this, thank you
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  • KrofftSurvivor NTA - You don't need a man in your life who gets angry when reminded that he has a responsibility to get a job and pay his own bills.
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  • OP Friendly_Exchange603 damn right my head really has been in the gutter omg
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  • BasicRabbit4 You financially support him, drive him to his play dates and clean up after him. You're his mother. You'd have to be insane to stay with him.
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  • OP Friendly_Exchange603 wait i needed to hear this, that really hits home
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  • brittdre 16 YTA only if you stay.
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  • WasIWrongHere It's weird that you are so attracted to an immature man- child. Does he let you play with his legos and cut in front of you in the lunch line? Seriously. Is there something that I'm missing here? It sounds like you have no sense of your own value.
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  • OP Friendly_Exchange603 UPDATE: I am looking for a new apartment & am in contact with a few places. I deserve so much better than this. 4 years is wayyy too long. I'm outttttt! Thank you all for your brutal honesty, I really needed it
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